Grief and Loss

Grief and Loss

February 16th, 2017 @

Grief is a natural response to loss. It might be divorce, the loss of a loved one, relationship, pet, job or way of life. The more significant the loss, the more intense the grief is likely to be.

Grief is expressed in many ways and it can affect every part of your life; your emotions, thoughts and behaviour, beliefs, physical health, your sense of self and identity, and your relationships with others. Grief can leave you feeling sad, angry, anxious, shocked, regretful, relieved, overwhelmed, isolated, irritable or numb.

Grief is a process that each person experiences in a unique way. It’s how you process, cope and learn to live with a significant loss. Men often take the stoic approach to grieving by keeping it bottled up or alternatively resort to physical activity to distract from painful emotions, however, research shows that allowing yourself to feel these emotions significantly helps in the grieving process. This means that you will not forget your loss but you will be able to look to the future with a sense of hope and find a way to live with your grief and loss.

Grief has no set pattern. Everyone experiences of grief is unique, complex and personal. Some people may grieve for weeks and months, while others may describe their grief lasting for years.

There are ways to help yourself: Don’t be afraid to ask for help – reach out, people want to help you. You do not have to work through grief alone, it probably hasn’t worked so far and more of the same won’t work either. Talk to friends and family about how you are feeling, or consider joining a support group. Take care of your physical health.

It’s also important to recognise when healing is blocked in some way. Many men don’t know how to grieve or don’t understand that what they’re feeling is grief and loss, they think they should be able to “just get over it”. If this sounds like you and your grief does not seem to be easing over time, it is ok to speak up, reach out, and start living a more balanced life.

Mark Hales


Category : Blog &Depression &Grief &Men's Coaching and Counselling

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